As moms, no matter where we are in life, we all aim to be more calm, loving, and collected. We’re aware that managing stress through exercise, a healthy diet, and maybe journaling, prayer, or meditation can help. Even though we do our best, there are times when we need a bit more to get through the day. Surprisingly, I’m not referring to coffee or wine, but to the Emotional Freedom Technique, often called EFT or “tapping.” This method can help manage stress, anxiety, and notably, toddler meltdowns!
Some experts describe EFT as a combination of self-administered counseling and massage. Sounds appealing, right? Plus, you can use it with your kids! If tapping yourself into calmness seems a bit “out there,” I get it. But most moms wouldn’t mind learning a simple, effective method for managing stress that’s natural, totally free, and always accessible.
EFT involves tapping acupressure points on your body with your fingertips while engaging in self-talk. This acupressure, combined with cognitive and behavioral therapy techniques, helps you coach yourself through strong emotions and signals your body to calm down. In essence, it’s like getting the benefits of acupuncture, but without the needles.
One of the more debated aspects of EFT is its basis in Chinese medicine, specifically the idea of energy flowing through invisible meridians in the body. Combined with its origins in Thought Field Therapy, which is often labeled as pseudo-scientific, EFT can seem controversial. However, recent medical research suggests that EFT may have a basis in both Western and Eastern medicine. Over the past two decades, EFT has transitioned from a fringe therapy to a respected health tool, supported by experts like Dr. Oz, Mark Hyman, and others.
Despite my initial skepticism, recent studies and expert endorsements have captured my attention. Advocates claim that EFT can be life-changing, with potential benefits backed by research. While side effects are minimal, consulting a professional about health conditions is always advisable when using natural remedies.
There are many versions of the tapping technique, and it’s important to research and choose wisely. The “right” way to tap involves three key steps: first, acknowledge the emotions you’re dealing with while tapping. This step validates negative feelings, which can help soothe the fight or flight response triggered by stress. Second, make statements that show acceptance of things as they are, which is crucial for self-compassion and positive thinking. Lastly, tap on acupressure points on your body while engaging in deep breathing. The technique is forgiving and doesn’t require precise sequences to be effective.
EFT might also be useful for helping kids manage fears, tantrums, and even symptoms of anxiety and ADHD. Since research shows that simply watching someone tap can relieve stress, teaching or modeling tapping for kids can be a valuable tool in parenting.
Though EFT’s prior associations with alternative medicine may have raised doubts, its growing acceptance in mainstream medical circles is increasing its credibility. Despite past skepticism due to small study sizes and being published in alternative journals, over 23 randomized clinical trials now support EFT’s benefits. As evidence continues to build, EFT might be worth trying as a natural stress management tool.
My personal contemplation about EFT stems from its roots in energy healing concepts, which may not align with everyone’s worldview, including my own. Yet, as scientific studies reveal more about tapping using techniques like EEG/ECG and MRI imaging, I find the practice increasingly credible, regardless of religious or spiritual beliefs. While I’m not an EFT expert, I plan to explore more, including participating in events like the Tapping World Summit.
Anxiety can stem from various causes, and tapping is just one of many natural methods to manage it. If EFT isn’t your thing, there are other effective ways to identify and address anxiety’s root causes. Always remember to consult with a healthcare professional for any concerns.
Have you tried EFT/tapping to manage stress? I’m curious about your thoughts on it!
